Understanding Family Dynamics & Theories
Family are all different in all sorts of ways; like size and shape. BUT every family has one thing in common, unspoken rules. Some examples of this could be unassigned assigned seats, when mom leaves the room/ house a certain individual is in charge or don`t stress mom or dad out. These rules are never said, they are taught, sometimes without knowing. This is easier to see when a person is older and starting to make new friends. You recognize that certain people don`t like certain things. Each interaction with friends or family is so different. After getting to know them a little and learning by trial and error, how you should act and react around that person.Every culture and family is so unique and different, no one has the same unwritten rules. In the United States, specifically in my family we were taught to listen and respect other people, especially strangers. My mom made sure that we were on our best behavior inside and outside of the house. It was never a strict situation, we were raised that way. (Some of it was because of our genes, we were all pretty shy and kind of scared of strangers). Now that I am older, I see kids disrespecting adults and being rude to strangers before they even talk to them. And that`s probably just how they were raised.
Since everyone`s families are different I think it is very hard for people to have a set plan of family dynamics. I think the few things I would suggest to parents is: to start out early, meaning if you both agree on something being a "tradition" or unspoken rule, start early in the marriage and your children's life. Be an example for the child, meaning act how you want your child to act, don`t go back on your word and even though your the adult if you want your child to do something or be somebody make sure they have an example and not to feel like they are alone. Be understanding and respectful towards your children. You should be patient and love your children, growing up isn`t easy. they have never done it before give them a break and make sure they understand what is going on. If you`re respectful to them they can learn to be respectful towards you (as a parent or other) and to other people. Raise your children how you would have wanted to have been raised.
